Wednesday, February 13, 2013

I spoke too soon...

... about the hurdles, anyway.

I was so excited about our home study being practically done and I thought I could see the light at the end of the home study tunnel.  I celebrated too early.

Reed and I are planning to have me travel alone because of our children and because of his work.  In order for me to travel alone, we have to prepare our home study and extra paperwork that accommodates me adopting alone, while in Ukraine.  Like, proving an income, which is why I'm now, officially a landlord.  Or adding me to the title of our home so that a county assessor can write a letter proving that I, not just Reed, has a home for 'Beatrice' to live in when she lands on American soil.  All these little details are in addition to the normal paperwork that is already somewhat difficult.

But then, we added another log to the fire today.  We learned that our home study needs to have some nontraditional verbiage that basically gives me permission from my husband to travel alone to adopt.  I understand this and do not think badly of it.  However, communicating this requirement is an issue and of course, there was misunderstanding between all parties, including myself.

I'm confident in my facilitator and my social worker, that they together can come up with a final home study that satisfies all requirements and leaves both feeling comfortable with the final draft.  Until that happens however, I will be praying.  Please feel free to join me.

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    1. Thank you! They are greatly appreciated. :)

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  2. Adoption is not for the faint of heart:) This too will pass. The positive I can say about paperwork and the hoop jumping required in adoption is it feels SOOOO good when it is over. Hang in there.

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    1. Thank you, Carol. I agree that adoption is not for the faint of heart. My problem is that I'm having to reluctantly let go of my idea that the 2nd time adopting would be easier... I was expecting that we would be like old pros. I was mistaken and I need to enter back into the mindset that while we may be experienced, surely, we are not old pros and this adoption is not easier and is actually difficult in its own right- as most adoptions usually are.

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